By Samantha Wong, Staff Writer
Boston University remains a mixed-bag dating scene, with lots of different people wanting a lot of different things, from hook-ups to relationships and everything in between.
The classic method of asking someone out is when one person invites another person out. But, in both the figurative and literal sense, with so much to do and so little time, it seems that students are more inclined towards an easier approach.
That’s where Tinder comes in.
The new location-based “dating app,” and its counterpart Grindr, described on its site as an “all-male location-based social network,” has been appearing on smartphones across BU’s campus.
The application works by connecting a user’s Facebook profile to the application once it is downloaded. Tinder takes the user’s profile picture on Facebook and allows other Tinder users to ‘like’ or ‘pass’ the user’s profile picture.
If two users ‘like’ each other then they have the option to go into a private chat room to meet. Some people choose not to meet and continue to ‘like’ or ‘pass’ others. Tinder does not post if the application is being used on Facebook and does not publish any of the user’s information to other users, other than age and first name if available.
Certainly, a virtual world may seem like a better way to ease into the dating scene, especially for students who have had bad previous experiences.
An anonymous female student from the School of Management recalls how a random male student asked her about the schedule of the bus and then proceeded to accompany her on the journey home uninvited. He then chatted her up the entire journey, not letting the fact that this could be a potentially awkward situation bother him. The male student then asked for the female student’s number when they were to part ways, which she felt obliged to decline.
Kayla Gillespie, College of Arts and Science freshman, said she was set up on a terrible blind date. Halfway through dinner, Gillespie’s date started yelling out obscenities, and then implied that they should go back to his residence and do “other things.” Gillespie’s date proceeded to ask her to pay for his dinner because he did not bring any money and then followed her to the nearest T stop— all the while attempting to convince her to change her mind about coming back with him. It is no surprise that Gillespie said “needless to say I will not be going on a blind date again, anytime soon.”
However, some students are fortunate enough to have found a significant other (traditionally- in person) while at BU. Adrien Gates, College of Arts and Science sophomore, whose boyfriend is in the School of Management, believes that dating at BU is not as difficult as it seems.
“Maybe I just got lucky. I think what really impresses a guy is when you initiate things, especially with the 2:3 ratio [of guys to girls] BU has,” said Gates.
The general consensus of dating at Boston University is that there is no general consensus. Some people meet each other without the use of dating sites and apps, and some find them fun and useful.
People should not feel pressured by the presumed college dating scene to do something out of their comfort zone. These dating apps may make it easier for people to approach each other in ways that they wouldn’t usually do in person.